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Thought I was stabilized and though not happy with my weight, at least dealing with it, trying to focus on the positive.
Then I just gained about 5 pounds “overnight”. Actually over maybe 5 days, but you know what I mean. 2 months stable then whammo…pants don’t fit. Had to go buy a bigger size, very depressing. I’m not talking about moving up to a 10, though I know that would freak some people out, we are talking 14s. Size large tees are looking questionable…extra large is a little baggy.
So I’m freaking out a bit because I never wanted to see bigger sizes again. I burned the bridges after weight loss surgery (sleeve) and got rid of all my old clothes as my weight went down.
Now my head is spinning…Slim4Life, intermittent fasting, heck just going all liquids for a week…no a month! Whatever it takes to get back down to size 10 again. I didn’t want to stick to 1000 calories or less a day for life. Seemed too much like being on a diet forever, too sad. And honestly SO hard even with smaller stomach capacity. My hunger isn’t quiet as gnawing, but not completely gone either.
Right now the plan is to get labs re:thyroid/adrenal/estrogen/etc. And maybe intermittent fasting. Except that my husband has been doing it and badgering me to do it. And nothing makes me more resistant to trying something than being nagged. Because then if it works at all I will have to deal with some insufferable self-righteousness from my spouse. And if I don’t stick with it the hounding will just amp up.
All this weight seems to have gone straight to my belly. And a weird “symptom”, I felt horny twice yesterday for no apparent reason. I usually have no libido. And I can’t decide if this is a good thing, or if it is just that I have added so much belly fat that my estrogen is cranked up.
Weight gain seems to be the biggest sticking point for people including myself. I am not nor have ever been to terribly overweight so I can understand how someone that went through so much hell to Lose it would be in a state of mental anguish. From my point of view I just want to get the energy back to go back to work full Time and feel good. If I really want to drop a couple of pounds I’ll deal with it later. All I can say is fasting and calorie restriction tricks the body into storing fat. The only way to reset those signals is to convince the body that everything is alright and there will always be enough food. Stress is also a biggie and from what I’ve gathered tends to put the weight in the mid section more often than not. Have you had some unusual stressors lately? And what is it that your husband is pressuring you on, the fasting or the bloodwork?
Dont intermittent fast, just don’t. It doesn’t work for women like it does for men. We can’t take it usually. Especially if you are already stressed.
Something had to have happened. Are you sleeping well? Not waking up and sleeping until your body is ready to get up on its own? Some can gain a lot certain times in their cycle. I always gain two lbs. Some gain more. Finally, I personally would track what you are eating. Don’t go to extremes, extremes are fattening. Calm down, take stock and see what’s going on. Figure out what you are eating and then it’s easier to know where to look for the problem. Don’t let tracking change what you are eating, just track for like three days to get some data.
How are your temps? Energy?
Some definite stress going on. Mostly around my relationship with my spouse.
As far as him pressuring me he is pressuring me to do 5:2 because it has worked well for him. He is controlling, though he will deny it very angrily. When I was very heavy it was an ongoing problem. Then he was against me having weight loss surgery. He had to shut up for a while when I was doing 800 calories a day. Now he is back to criticizing. He started in on the criticism before I started gaining weight back. He criticizes our daughter and his parents the same way.
And the current big stress is that he wants to move our family to Canada, or at least up to the northwest of the US. Now that the house we had has sold there is nothing holding him back other than finding a job. He isn’t willing to bend at all, or even delay. He is determined that we move ASAP.
I would at least like to stay where we are a couple of years to pay off debt/build up savings and I’m not keen on moving away from my family. We just made our 5th short distance move in 6 years. My almost 8 year old daughter is sick of not staying put and being able to make friends.
I feel like my options are to either move, or break up my family. So yeah, some stress.
Something had to have happened. Are you sleeping well? Not waking up and sleeping until your body is ready to get up on its own? Some can gain a lot certain times in their cycle. I always gain two lbs. Some gain more. Finally, I personally would track what you are eating. Don’t go to extremes, extremes are fattening. Calm down, take stock and see what’s going on. Figure out what you are eating and then it’s easier to know where to look for the problem. Don’t let tracking change what you are eating, just track for like three days to get some data.
Thanks for this. Not sleeping great…early morning insomnia. Maybe just monthly hormone stuff, but early. Trying to keep calm and just eat reasonably.
I was thinking of tracking again today and will give that a whirl. I know that my quantities aren’t large so maybe it is a particular food? I wasn’t a huge eater before surgery either, just got and stayed fat easily (PCOS and who knows what).
Okay…so that last part was me again. Guess I don’t need to put the block quote tag at the start and end.
ilex70, that sounds like a huge amount of stress. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this, and your body has obviously reacted. As you probably know, dieting will just subject your body to more stress.
Sometimes, our bodies raise red flags when we are in unhealthy situations, and in the long run it can be a blessing because it forces you to call attention to the situation. Take care of yourself, and I hope you make the right decisions for yourself and your daughter. I would recommend putting the focus there rather than on your weight at the moment. As someone who grew up around a lot of put downs and abuse, I can tell you firsthand that it affects children big time – still recovering in my 30s.
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