July 15, 2013 at 2:03 am #8995scarlettsmumParticipant
Don’t know where else to put this question as there isn’t a forum for this, but I wanted to ask if anyone has quit or thinking about quitting this, perhaps just taking on board the fluid intake and has managed to get back to their normal weight?
I would love to continue, but I don’t think now is the right time for me as I am still breastfeeding and unable to sleep at night and therefore gaining lost of extra weight due to these stressors. :(July 15, 2013 at 7:16 am #9008JdubsParticipant
I know I have already weighed in on this a bit but I’ll add a couple of things. The first is, how are you feeling? Are you just thinking of quitting because of your husbands reaction to your weight gain? You seem to have been pretty stressed about the weight gain as well as all of your other stressors in your life. You have stated before that you are pretty happy with your body image at the moment, which is a good thing. I can understand not wanting to blow that now that you’ve gotten to a place your comfortable with. So my advice is basically to go with what you feel is right. Don’t treat this 180 degree stuff like another diet or some prescription you have to fill down to the letter to achieve your health goals. This, like everything else out there is not a one size fits all deal. If your feeling pretty decent and can make it through the day without feeling like your on the verge of total physical collapse then I think you’ll be alright. I would still eat to appetite and give in to the cravings, restriction can be stressfull, but don’t feel like you have to keep stuffing your face in order to achieve some mystical health goal or temperature range. Temps aren’t everything, feeling good and having energy is much more important. So if I were you I would possibly think about taking a step back and focus on stress first. Look into some of the meditation people have been mentioning. Find creative ways to sneak in as much sleep and rest as you can. Eat what makes you happy both mentally and physically. And love your family. You may still climb up a few more pounds doing that but I think in the end if you focus on the sleep, rest, and stress issues as well as some easier to manage things like fluid intake, you’ll see Improvments in your life without stressing to much about things. I think in the long run, taking baby steps and making small changes in your diet and attitude towards food and life In general, will go along way. I hope this helps some.July 15, 2013 at 8:58 am #9013SBC037Participant
I agree with Jdubs. There’s so much work and pressure when you have young children. I was in quite a state at times that whenever anyone suggested anything that might help I felt it as another pressure! Meditate! Walk! Take time out! Do yoga! Eat this! Eat that! Wean the baby! Go on a girls’ night out! Have a date night with your husband! All well-meaning. I just didn’t want any of that. I just wanted some bloody sleep! It’s so hard to create the path to more sleep when you have little children so sometimes just being super kind to yourself, deeply resting even if you’re not sleeping and knowing that this intense phase of your life will pass is enough. In the meantime, try to be as good to yourself as you are to your babies.July 15, 2013 at 9:36 am #9016FinngarianParticipant
My kiddos didn’t sleep either and I really struggled during that time… SBC037 said it exactly – ALL the suggestions to make it better sounded impossible, even trying to arrange a girls’ night out was stressful and overwhelming! It seems like it goes on forever, it really does… now mine are 8 and 6 and sleeping great so I sleep well too… I really suffered when they were little, I wish I’d known to eat more back then but I was terrified of getting fatter… yet here I am, fatter, but feeling so much better… take care of yourself as well as you are able, in whatever way makes sense to you right now, your little ones need their mama to be well.July 15, 2013 at 12:12 pm #9030scarlettsmumParticipant
Thank you all for so much support. I realise that there are people on the forum who really need a help and I’m moaning about gaining weight.
Anyhow, I had a chat with my yoga teacher today and I realised that I was just obsessed by this whole thing and taking it too far yet again like jdubs suggested. I have decided to take it easy now, more sleep/rest but not being obsessive. I have eaten less today and actually feel better, more comfortable, rather than stuffed. I have learnt a lot from this, regulating my water intake and I now eat all the fruit I want, I just have some parmesan alongside it. Anyhow, many thanks again, you are so damn right!!
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